I’ve watched a fair share of porn in my life. I’ve even been a member of a couple of porn sites in the past. But as I’ve matured, I’ve come to realize that men’s relationship with porn is fraught with problems and pitfalls. I have nothing against porn. I still watch it from time to time, although none of that weird shit that is popping up more and more out there.
The main problem with porn is that I’ve found that it, for the most part, hurts my sex life. The problem is that it externalizes sex. It becomes this thing “out there”. An impersonal thing which you observe from a safe distance. There is no love there, no connection. There is just wham, bam, thank you m’am. And the goal is always ejaculation.
I’m training myself these days to become a multi-orgasmic man and in this period, I’ve consumed porn only once. That one time severely damaged my consciousness, however, and much progress vanished in one fell swoop. A man who is overstimulated by what he sees and who sees ejaculation as the goal, will be sexually limited. So I have committed to not watching any more porn as long as I’m so vulnerable to its damage.
I include a link to a good documentary about the porn industry and how much men and society are hurting through overconsumption of it. It’s in English, though, so you can watch it too. It uses Silverlight technology, so you may be better off with using Internet Explorer.
http://www.nrk.no/nett-tv/klipp/601137/
It’s worth watching.